Sydney Mitchell
Sonia Begert
English 101
14 October 2012
The Leap
It is the thought that often kept my mind awake long after dark. The idea which was so all-consuming it permeated the underlying base of my every conscious thought and invaded my dreams. A feeling that settled heavy in my bones, threatening to cement me to an everlasting state of inadequacy. Fear of uselessness. The threat of failure.
My dreams melded with reality. Strange dreams involving impossible tasks and a sense of wrongness too heavy to be left on the shoulders of a mere child. So vivid, so real, so tangible that no amount of screaming or shaking or soothing could bring me back from the cold clutch of my nightmare. I dreaded sleep for fear of the terrors that accompanied the night, the evil that resided in my subconscious and was let loose to twist my thoughts as the barriers of my mind relaxed and I fell asleep. Dreams of a man tossing a thousand pennies into the endless sands of the Sahara, ordering me to find them all, reminding me that if I should fail this task, death would ensue. I knew failure was imminent. I knew I was striving towards an unattainable goal. Even at barely seven years old, I knew.
Fast forward to 2009, the genesis of my seventh grade year; new school, fresh start. Word gets around fast in a school of 120. Being the new kid was equivalent to being a shiny object in an aquarium teeming with gold fish. All the fish wanted to look at me, they were drawn to me; I was fascinating to them. Yet just as a goldfish will soon forget what it was looking at, I rapidly became old news. The drama, insecurities, changes and social awkwardness that come with the territory of being thirteen began to settle in. Boys began to make fun of me, girls were gossiping about me; yet the true wake-up call came when a teacher, someone I respected and trusted, falsely accused me of cheating. I had just finished a science test, but as I left the room she asked me to stay behind. She handed me the test and immediately I noticed the numbers one, one, seven splashed across the top margin in red ink. The teacher looked me in the eye and said that my grade was too high, no one could answer every question right….right? She proceeding to accuse me of cheating, and reduced my grade by thirty percent as punishment. The fear came rushing back as I saw my grade plummet. Anger, hurt and betrayal washed over me; at that moment something snapped. I walked straight out of the school and went home. That was the day I took a leap.
Homeschooling was a scary concept; homeschoolers themselves were notoriously weird, awkward and completely socially inept…according to society, that is. What was I thinking, leaving traditional school to become a homeschooler? Nevertheless I walked into school in the Fall of 2010 to find eighteen sets of eyes, much older and wiser, staring into my own, sizing me up. Guys with facial hair and knuckle tattoos and girls that didn’t have braces, unlike myself. I was surprised to see that most the students in the room were not what I expected. They were not awkward or inept; they were confident, developed and intelligent. Maybe, this would work out after all.
After class, I spoke with my teacher, an inspiringly idiosyncratic woman by the name of Robin Summerfelt. She reviewed my prior test scores and, after getting a sense of my go-getter attitude, she informed me that if I was willing to put forth the effort, it just might be possible for me to graduate high school in two short years. That was it, my goal was set; two years. Geometry, Algebra II, Egyptology, Human Anatomy, Honors English; I breezed through them. An insatiable thirst for knowledge motivated me to work day and night in order to achieve my goal. All the while I had forgotten about the dreams. They were a distant memory…but the thoughts were still there. Fear. Failure.
The fear drove me. It drove me to be the best. It drove me to surpass expectations, even my own, and to graduate at the age of fifteen. Homeschooling had given that fear an outlet. It ran rampant, working me into the ground, because there was nothing to hold it back anymore. It drove me to work through lunch and dinner six days a week. It drove me to what I thought was my full potential. At times it was difficult to stay dedicated, with only myself to ensure I did my assignments in time to graduate, but the fear pushed me onwards. Yet that fear…it was evil underneath all of the success it brought me. The rotten feeling of the fear began to waft up, like trying to cover up the reeking, rotten stench of sweat with cheap perfume. It made me sick. Everything seemed…wrong, as if my soul had been hardened. No amount of success or compliments could take that feeling away.
So I began to delve into my past, searching for a solution by remembering those dreams; as I dove deeper, they surfaced again. Frantically clawing through miles of dunes, brushing away mountains of sand grain by miniscule grain. One night woke up, sweaty and anxious and ran to the bathroom to hop in a cold shower. I had rid myself of these dreams, they were…gone! How could they be back? Could I even withstand the effects of this torment again?
It came to me in sleep. During one of the moments where I was not churning inside due to a nightmare, I dreamt of…freedom. That is the only way I know how describe the feeling that came over me. When morning came, I awoke feeling fresh and liberated. It was an odd feeling, one I was not accustomed to, yet I took advantage of it. I focused on having fun and being with friends and, even though it was summer, forgetting about school. Forgetting about the future and instead living in the moment, that was my cure. I stopped worrying about plans and college and a schedule and being perfect and I allowed myself to just be free for the first time in my life. It was and is an everyday choice that I make moment-by-moment. Sometimes I struggle with the fear of failure, sure. The fear will never go away. But now I am able to deal with it.
Fear, terror, bullying, rebellion, anger, anxiety, walking by blind faith, success, revelation, redemption…my journey began with a dream and ended the same way. No longer does fear rule my life. Instead, the only thing I am afraid of is fear itself. Failure is not a possibility because of the person I now know I am. No matter what I do, where I go, or who I meet I will never fail. I view each mistake not as a failure, but as an opportunity to start again, this time more intelligently. Homeschooling was a crucial step in my journey of facing failure. It brought the fear back with such terrible force it snapped me awake and forced me to change. Now, I look failure in the eye and say boldly, “challenge accepted”.